Ero Week: The deal-breaker


The other day, I read Brad's harrowing tale of how he lent his girlfriend a copy of Sundome, fully expecting to be dumped within days of having done so. It gave me a good laugh, but reminded me of how hentai can be a perilous fetish -- at least, in terms of relationships.

I've had my fair share of relationships over the years, and thinking back I can actually remember of a few instances where hentai played some sort of role in determining the nature of the relationship, but only once was it ever a deal-breaker. So what exactly happened? Hear all about that after the jump.

Now, I'm sure some of you are currently in relationships where your core values may differ from that of your significant other. For example, if he or she walked in on you playing your favorite eroge at the wrong moment, you might end up single or worst yet, labeled a pervert amongst your friends on Facebook. It's a scary thought, right?

I was actually in a relationship like that at one point, and there wasn't much I could do about it. It was years ago before Facebook, I think we had Live Journal and IRC at the time. I was absolutely smitten with the girl -- which was arguably the worst mistake of my life -- and despite her misguided ethical views, and self-professed moral superiority, I spent the entire relationship hiding the fact that I actually enjoyed looking at porn. 

So, one evening I decided to throw in a copy of something, I can't really remember, it might have been Cool Devices, or something else that was out at the time, but it had been a long day and I really just wanted to relax a bit. The girl walked in, and suffice to say, a huge fight ensued. It got to the point where she wanted to watch me go through each folder on my computer and delete each and every image or video I had sitting around. I don't know about you, but for me, that was an instant deal-breaker.

I can understand someone not enjoying porn. I can even understand them seeing the art as being derogatory to both men and women. I completely disagree, but I can at least respect that point of view. That said, I would never again put myself through that kind of relationship. While some fetishes are probably best kept a secret, you shouldn't have to tiptoe around the fact that you enjoy your hentai. If you meet someone you can share those fetishes with, even more power to you.

I've since married a woman that, while she doesn't share my core values when it comes to porn, gets that its something that I enjoy and refuses to judge me for it. If there's anything I'd like you to take away from this story, it's simply that when it comes to those you love, a little bit of tolerance can make a world of difference.

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Tim is the former Editor-in-Chief of Japanator, a content media specialist by day, and pro-blogger by night. His posts can be found scattered throughout the Modern Method network. Also, he writes... more + disclosures



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